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Some close friends are going through the hardship of failed relationships driving a wedge between parent(s) and kid(s)..
Being a stepfather I try to reach out to show support but it is difficult given that i can receive backlash for my position in the family i love and am now part of...
Here's but a slice of my story (being i can only speak for myself) with the underlying message that mediation and co-parent friendship (I feel) will have better results than family courts in MOST circumstances.
Particularly mums; Give Dads the chance to be in their kids life in whatever way possible.. we are all human, have some empathy 3 4DAiZE
(Intro)
Hey Reid, where you been?
I miss ya
Been a while since we seen the enigma
Dropped off the scene like plow!
Now where is ya?
All of us can see you got that Step Daddy Stigma
Now i know that's a hit 'n' miss
But on the other hand you still gotta live
And a' we all know just a' what you did
recognise a good deed but you know that ain't your kid?!
(Verse 1)
I say your right, like i don't know that!
I think it's fine, he's got his own dad,
Cos in time all parties know that
I'm just trying to lead a good life
Own that, some things stay
Some you can't take back
One day, you'll wish you didn't say that
I say i'm just a mate he'll stay dad, always
said it to his face in the day, stayed that way
made her wait eight months
Keeping other snakes away
Players gonna play huh?
Helped her find a fresher place
Put a smile on her face
Taught her how to make it stay
For her son, every day
Was close enough to Daddy's place
Then she went and moved away
Things were tough
What am I supposed to say?
Being honest ain't enough
So i told her "Fine! Stay!"
Thought she'd call my bluff
But she didn't.. My mistake!
(Hook)
I got that Step Daddy Stigma
Cos my woman got a kid huh?
Don't tell me what Daddy did love
Every Daddy needs their kids love
I got that Step Daddy Stigma
Cos my woman got a kid huh?
Don't tell me what Daddy did love
Just let me show you big love!
(Verse 2)
To prove I ain't a fake
Flew the state
Gave away everything i had
Or couldn't take in one bag
Faced a few of our mistakes
Eight months later flew back
Written on my face
All the lies had made my heart crack
Staying at my cousins place
Til he got his life back
Couldn't shake the pain away
Always stayed in contact
Had to know they both were safe
Banking everything I had
Til i got another plane"
Same feelings, new pad
Second time fool on me
Once again my bad
New responsibility
Step up Step Dad
Deal responsibly
This shits hurting me, i'm not mad
By example let us lead
Acting how we would had we
Had the ability travel time
Know what's bad
Act appropriately
The best with what we both had
All that kindness had me looking weak,
Beat, sad, walked over, left defeat
That's why they call it "Step" Dad
(Hook)
I got that Step Daddy Stigma
With love for an others kid huh?
I don't care what Daddy's inta'
For the kids just give big love!
I got that Step Daddy Stigma
Cos my woman got a kid huh?
I don't care what Daddy did love
I mean you still get my big love!
I got that Step Daddy Stigma
Love for my woman's kid huh?
I don't care what Daddy did love
Every daddy needs their kids love!
I got that Step Daddy Stigma
Felt I had to act like an enigma
So many going through this shit huh?
For the kids just give big love!
(Verse 3)
Now speaking honestly it's fair to say
Everybody makes their mistakes
But if the love can't be saved
Don't let your kid become the stakes
This ain't the states, we ain't on TV
Do what it takes to make it easy
To act as mates, make it breezy
For futures sake it's what they need Geez
Mediate to alleviate
All your children's angst
Before it turns to hate
Concentrate
Shed the weight
Accept the fate
Meditate
Levitate to a lighter state
Let your emotions float away
Go through the motions til the day
The healing potion washes away
Like the ocean it has it waves
It comes and goes and that's okay
The child knows it's here to stay
The love it grows and trumps the hate
Cos it flips and flows from a higher place
Pick up the phone, call em mate!
But if you don't, what can i say
Don't blame the new bloke
Who's in your way
Cos he does and you won't
Make change!
I got that Step Daddy Stigma
Cos my woman got a kid huh?
Don't tell me what Daddy did love
Every Daddy needs their kids love
I got that Step Daddy Stigma
Cos my woman got a kid huh?
Don't tell me what Daddy did love
Just let me show you big